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By Her Unhappy Parents Who To Give her Captivated by the Millionaire unhappy parents who to give the benefit the doubtndoubtedly feel love and concern for her but are able to express it mostly through criticism and "sarcasm Her mother s lashing out at 10 year old Shavin as a fat pig likely contributed to "Her mother s lashing out at 10 year old Shavin as a fat pig likely contributed to daughter s later eating disorder Anorexia is a shifty opponent never letting its victim see herself as she truly is distorting her self image and fostering denial denial that she is ill that she is frighteningly skeletal rather than attractively thin that she could die This pattern of denial takes over all aspects of the anorexic s life during the time of Shavin s struggle toward wellness and independence her father becomes mortally ill with bladder cancer but she denies it so thoroughly that his death blindsides her It becomes a wake p call a turning point in her recovery Have I mentioned that this book is funny Shavin spins off wacky inventive images such as when she and her brother are trying to persuade a Mexican airline rep reluctant to grant them an early return from vacation But our father has died words that feel at first like trying to chew p a washing machine A prospective boyfriend s assets are appraised thus first in a ridiculous pair of too short lime green polyester pants His rear end is round and cinched p high like a package and later in well fitting Levis His rear no longer looking like a silly package waiting to be mailed is round and firm and brilliantly displayed Her incisive writing gives impact to the serious moments as well for example when as a 22 year old still in the grip of her illness she confronts an addict in a group meeting You ve been an addict for five years Joe Is this what you want for the rest of your life To play around with. LtOr so she thought As you might suspect the burden of self contempt faulty logic and interpersonal turmoil that are the character traits of depressive disorders and addictions do not miraculously disappear once medication and therapy have taken effect Where then do these dangerous obsessions go once a person sets foot on the road to recoveryFor Shavin they lived on beneath the radar of her supposed newfound health disguising themselves in the falling down houses she happily moved into and dangerous neighborhoods she somehow didn’t fear They announced themselves in the deeply flawed men she professed to.
READ The Body TouristThis memoir reads like a novel I found myself laughing out loud in some places and moved to tears in others I love Dana s gift for metaphor there s some really great writing in this bookI generally don t read memoirs because too many of them tend to be self indulgent gossipy or devoid of any meaningful insight That is not the case with this book There s a sweet sort of Self Effacement In Dana S Story And The Way She effacement in Dana s story and the way she it that never crosses over into poor me territory Instead her story comes across as sincere honest and absolutely real I d definitely
"Recommend This Book Brave Edgy "this book Brave edgy insightful heartfelt searching these are some of the adjectives that Dana Lise Shavin s coming of age memoir THE BODY TOURIST inspiresThe book charts in intricate detail and vivid prose Shavin s journey of recovery from anorexia which she describes as a pathology with a noble heart that aims to scour away self delusion and excess down to the bare bone of truth God knows there was little truth in Shavin s childhood home her estranged parents were so mired in their own problems that they never acknowledged feelings simply shutting each other and their youngest daughter the author out her writer father by isolating himself in his study and popping Valiums her mother "by compulsively dieting and exercising At 5 9 as a student at Bard College 20 something Shavin starves herself down "compulsively dieting and exercising At 5 9 as a student at Bard College 20 something Shavin starves herself down 82 lbs getting herself kicked out of school and hospitalized After she has attained 99 lbs the magic number for release from treatment she sets about becoming a superhero savior of people in the thrall of addiction among whom she once included herself though now she claims to be Recovered Recovery however turns out to be a long process not a single event Shavin s est for wholeness and truthfulness takes her through six years of dead end mental health counseling jobs relationships with In 1983 Shavin graduated from college with a BA in psychology It had been a difficult venture that included an expulsion a multitude of transfers and a four month institutionalization for depression and anorexia By the time it was over she was convinced she was cured and that it was time to start curing others I’m ready she told her parents her therapist her friends all of whom shook their heads in horror at her 95 pound frame But she was ndaunted She had landed a job as a counselor in a halfway house for drug and alcohol addicts She knew better than anyone what it took to become a happy functioning adu. .
Your recovery your time the people who love you and are waiting to see if you re coming back My voice which would ordinarily be aking is surprisingly calm All of the residents are looking at me Joe is looking at meI look toward the one way window behind which I know Mr Jenkins is looking at me But all I "can see is myself looking back I am talking to myself By book s end she has worked her "see is myself looking back I am talking to myself By book s end she has worked her to her own truth as an artist as a happy wife and as possessor of a body which though by some standards is still very thin is robust enough to contain her forceful spirit and transport her where her ambition and talent want and deserve to go I have spent my whole life living with disordered eating My mother struggled with her weight and at some point everyone in my family decided that I should be her diet buddyWhile I can look at photos and see that I wasn t fat I always thought I wasIt is only in my 50s that I am able to see that controlling how much I eat doesn t help me control anything and everything elseI identified with Shavin and with her struggle It s realFunny horrifying and honest this is a great bookI received this free from NetGalley This book provided a lot of insight into the mindset of someone who is anorexic During her early to mid twenties Ms Shavin deprived herself not only of food but also of life Her denial of human needs food healthy relationships and comfortable living conditions to name a few was the result of a mental disorder and a compulsive need for control in her life By focusing on the controllable amount of calories she ingested every day Ms Shavin hoped to find One of the most engrossing memoirs I have ever had the privilege to read The Body Tourist is a diamond in the rough Like the anorexic self depreciating narrator tells The Greek Tycoons Mistress us in a round about way we are all a work in progress I really enjoyed this tale the flip flops through. Adore the ordinary sex she could not have the food rituals she thought were normal and most profoundly in her inability to acknowledge her father’s illness and encroaching deathWhile many writers have written candidly and elouently about their struggles with depression addictions and eating disorders those storiessually conclude once there is progress toward recovery Beyond recovery there is another story one that is about how we re join the world and in the living years that follow the darkness pursue a life that is creative engaged and deeply felt in our bones This is the territory of The Body Touris.